Oftentimes, we’re faced with several open doors … but we self sabotage and get in our own way. When we have an an opportunity (or several opportunities!), it’s all too easy to not take action towards it, whether because we don’t know how, we’re fearful of doing so, or some combination of the two.
Whatever the reason, it’s all too easy for us to spiral into negative thinking. We start to believe our thoughts—even if they’re not based in any fact—and it can derail us from achieving success (not to mention derail us from other non-copywriting goals like building meaningful relationships).
If you’re looking for not only ways you can shift these thoughts and behaviors, but also how to make those mindset and behavior changes stick, then you’re going to love this book pick: Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior by Mark Goulston and Philip Goldberg.
The book explains why we self sabotage ourselves in the first place before going over easy-to-implement steps that allow you to transform forty (yes, 40!) self-defeating behaviors. It turns out, we’re really good at getting in our own way!
While there are dozens of behaviors, several—procrastination, anger, self-pity, quitting too soon and inaction—are common behaviors that rear their head when we try to learn something new as adults.
Goulston, who has twenty years of psychiatric clinical practice, shares tactics that have helped his patients overcome pain, fear, and confusion.
The book may not reveal any new surprises, but it will likely provide you a new take and ways to approach these self-sabotaging behaviors. At the very least, it will remind you not to beat yourself up when you catch yourself doing these behaviors, but rather remind you that you have the power to adjust your mindset and your response.
Each of the 40 behaviors is discussed in only a couple of pages, making it less overwhelming to read, as you can pinpoint behaviors you know you need to fix first. But the others are worth reading as you may not even realize some of the ways you’re getting in your own way!
Each behavior includes anecdotes that help bring them to life (and make the content relatable).
So, ready to turn those negative voices in your head off? (Or at least lower their volume?) Let’s do this.
Your Turn! What’s your #1 self sabotaging behavior you want to work on and what’s your plan to work on it? Share in the comments below!
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Last Updated on July 11, 2022 by Nick Olds